“Golf and fatherhood are two of the most challenging and wonderful things a man can undertake—full of wonder and unexpected happiness one moment followed by nagging worry and various stages of quiet terror the next. In both experiences we learn as we go. Someone once said that a good father's joys and fears are private—for he dare not speak of one, and will not speak of the other. In Play It As It Lies, Matthew Filner has done a masterful job of chronicling and revealing the various stages of fatherhood through the prism of the game he dearly loves, as he and wife, Theresa, navigate the ups and downs of everyday life raising their sons Aidan and Elliott. Aside from the yeoman's tour Filner provides of some of America's finest layouts, you may see vivid glimpses of your own struggles and small triumphs in pursuit of both games. In the end, we must play everything in life as it lies—and thereby find both joy and meaning in the process.”
New York Times-bestselling author of Final Rounds
and Ben Hogan: An American Life
“As a game so often shared between fathers and their children, golf is a game that many of us can't separate from memories of our dads. Matthew Filner's Play It As It Lies is a moving testament to why those memories are the greatest gifts golf can give us. Whether you're a father or daughter or son or grandfather, there is a story here to remind you that golf with dad is as good as golf gets.”
New York Times-bestselling author of A Course Called Scotland,
A Course Called America, and others.
He is senior editor of The Golfers Journal.
“Play It As It Lies is an artfully crafted frolic through the rollercoaster we call parenthood. Golfers will particularly relate to Filner’s hunger for a quick emergency nine at the muni, and will be surprised to see some of the places the game takes the author. Golf is used as a canvas to reflect, make connection, and just plain have fun. Parenthood is a journey that gives us the ability to teach and to grow. It’s not too dissimilar from golf. As unique as some of Filner’s storytelling is, it’s a path familiar to many of us. The author leads us down that sacred path beautifully.”
“Fatherhood is a journey without a roadmap. In a unique way among sports, golf can provide a framework for life. In Play It As It Lies, Matthew Filner explores his singular path through parenthood and the greatest game of all. Without a map, we can all learn from his experiences as a father and golfer.”
author of When Revelation Comes and The Secret Home of Golf
“Becoming a parent changes a lot of things, but for us golf sickos, it forever changes the way we play and experience golf. We become teachers instantaneously, hoping that over time the infant turned toddler turned kiddo will get into the game that we care so much about. Matt nails this entire experience perfectly in PlayIt As ItLies as he weaves the forever journey of teacher, instructor, caddie, cart driver, and much more as a golf dad.”
national sports broadcaster, podcaster, and writer,
author of The Golfer's Zoo
“As a Director of Instruction at Bandon Dunes Golf Resort, I have always told golfers that if they want to play their best, they should aim to have fun. Play It As It Lies explores the challenge and magic of becoming the best parent and skilled golfer that you can be. Parenting and golf have many similarities. In order to be successful, you have to pay attention and try to make every parenting decision and golf shot count. The best strategy is to always try to do your best. Being a parent or a golfer is an acquired skill. It takes time and patience. You have to keep moving in the right direction and try not to be distracted by your success or failures. Play It As It Lies is filled with clues to follow if you want to become a better parent or play your best golf. The secret is to relax, follow the clues, and enjoy the adventure. The journey is more important than the destination.”
Director of Instruction Emeritus, Bandon Dunes Golf Resort